However, it is one thing to recognize that there are things about us that  we need to change – it is another to make those changes happen. Sitting around just waiting for things to change all by themselves will change nothing. If you truly want to change your life, you must first accept that only you can do this. Only you have the power to change yourself.

So, what are the obstacles preventing you from ‘changing’ the things you need to change? More often than not the greatest obstacle is our lack of motivation.

One of the biggest motivational obstacles we face is our own bad habits. These can and do, severely restrict our lives. To move on we need to retrain ourselves in good habits, Getting rid of our bad habits is a doorway to a better life.

One of our ‘opt out’ bad habits involves us blaming everything and everyone but ourselves. Naturally, projecting blame on everything external to ourselves is justified. It really is their fault. Or so we like to think!

By blaming others we effectively excuse ourselves from doing anything about our plight. We de-motivate ourselves from taking curative action. We justify our inaction with a host of reasons over which we like to believe that we have no control.

We need to accept that EACH ONE OF US IS RESPONSIBLE FOR OURSELVES. This is prerequisite to changing our lives.

We also need to accept that in any given situation we are faced with options. We can do this, or do that. All too often we re-act to situations as a knee jerk reaction – if at all. We need to get into the habit of considering our choices and acting upon them. We also need to get into the habit of thinking things through. Given that every choice we make will have consequences - we need to be aware of those consequences. Consider the long term consequences of all 'life changing' important choices. It may help to write down these choices and stick to them. Do this until it becomes a habit. Another milestone involves curbing our impulsive behaviour. Controlling our impulses is an enormous task. One suggestion is to put things off until the next day, next week, next month etc. However, the problem with this is that we could use it as an excuse to do nothing. If we do nothing – nothing will happen - waiting doesn't help us to change. It really is a non-starter. We need to make the effort to recognize and search out opportunities which assist us to change. Training ourselves to see options and opportunities is one thing. Training ourselves to take advantage of them is another. We could begin by training ourselves to take positive action the moment we recognise an opportunity for what it is. This could be best achieved by Get into the habit of looking for and taking the easiest possible first step we can find. Often just getting started will help to develop our motivation. "change your mind - change your life."

 

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